The Self Help Antidote Podcast

Send us a text (https://www.buzzsprout.com/twilio/text_messages/1667158/open_sms) What if your best performance doesn’t come from trying harder, but from letting go? In this electrifying episode, I’m joined by the brilliant Jo Groves, coach, presenter, trainer, and unapologetic story teller, who breaks down the art and science of authentic presenting. We explore what it really means to show up: not just to deliver lines, but to create an experience. From rhythm and timing to the importance of detaching from the outcome, Jo unpacks how to move from a contrived delivery to spontaneous resonance. We dig into the inner game of performance; why "trying" kills your flow, how to condition yourself to create on demand, and what it takes to shift from the inner critic to the insightful observer, à la The Inner Game of Tennis. Jo also dives into the power of reading the room, taking creative risks, using your environment, and why needing to be liked might just make you less likable. This episode is a masterclass in dropping the performance anxiety and tapping into something real, present, and powerful. Because as Jo reminds us: if you’re going to show up, SHOW UP. 🎯 Whether you speak on stages, in meetings, or to a camera, this one’s for you. Visit us at: www.theselfhelpantidote.com

Why do people start off motivated, only to have it soon fade? It’s a common question, and a good one at that. There are many reasons for this. One of them is temporal discounting; our bias towards favoring rewards in the short term over the long term. This isn’t about laziness. It’s about having a deeper understanding of motiovnatoin If this applies to you, or one of your clients, here’s how you can use temporal discounting to sustain motivation.

Send us a text (https://www.buzzsprout.com/twilio/text_messages/1667158/open_sms) In this episode, we dismantle the sacred cows of self-help and hustle culture with equal parts honesty and introspection. We start by questioning one of the most glorified slogans in fitness and life: “Go hard or go home.” Is it a motivational mantra… or just a socially acceptable way to ignore your body and trauma? From there, we dive into: ·       The self-inflicted damage we often call “grit” or “grind.” ·       Why brutal honesty isn’t always brave, or kind. ·       The conversation we wish we could have had with our younger self (and maybe still need to). ·       How early experiences of chaos or neglect can shape a lifetime of risky behavior disguised as ambition. ·       And finally, we zoom out: What does our evolving relationship with AI reveal about the parts of ourselves we’ve outsourced, avoided, or are just now beginning to understand? This episode isn’t just about performance or technology, it’s about what we sacrifice, what we glorify, and what we might reclaim if we stopped confusing pain for progress.   Visit us at: www.theselfhelpantidote.com

Send us a text (https://www.buzzsprout.com/twilio/text_messages/1667158/open_sms) In this episode, we’re joined by Jeffrey Sanow—former Senior Intelligence Officer for the CIA, strategic leadership presenter, author of Humint for Humanity, and a storyteller with a wealth of real-world experience in the highest-stakes environments. Together, we unpack why change management is never just about systems—it’s about people. Jeffrey shares sharp insights on what makes communication work across personalities, power structures, and cultures. We explore how great leaders tune into what others need (not just what they want), why inexperience is often an asset, and how ego—when left unchecked—silences innovation. You’ll hear: • Why psychological safety is the ultimate litmus test for ego in the workplace • The critical role of listening in effective leadership • How diverse, committee-based decision-making unlocks creativity • Why failure isn’t the enemy—it’s the sign you’re pushing boundaries • What it really means to lead by serving those who work for you This episode is a masterclass in human intelligence—strategic, relational, and emotional. If you’re a leader, coach, or just someone who gives a damn about people and performance, don’t miss this one. Visit us at: www.theselfhelpantidote.com

Send us a text (https://www.buzzsprout.com/twilio/text_messages/1667158/open_sms) Episode Description: Are you living your life… or managing everyone else’s reactions to it? In this episode, we dig into what happens when your self-worth gets tangled in the opinions of others. From the exhausting pursuit of universal approval, to the sneaky trap of meta-perception; how we think others see us. We explore how this mental noise hijacks our happiness, relationships, and performance. We’ll unpack the difference between being affected by and defined by other people’s views, how emotional intelligence requires the guts to hear hard truths, and why the ability to celebrate someone else's success says more about you than you think. Also in this episode: • What friendships are actually worth keeping (and why that's not selfish). • The one thing you should never do if you want to help someone change. • The science-backed factor that explains 70% of workplace performance variation, and what it has to do with how you talk to people. • And why curiosity is more than a mindset, it's the antidote to the toxic oversimplifications of “sound-byte thinking.” Let’s explore what it means to guide rather than push, ask rather than assume, and build relationships that don’t just perform, but transform. Visit us at: www.theselfhelpantidote.com

Most people fear public speaking more than death. Fear of public speaking isn’t a flaw it’s human. But what if it’s not fear that’s the problem… it’s our relationship with it? In this video, you’ll learn how to shift from anxious survival mode to powerful presence, and speak with impact.

What happens when a leader loses faith in the very thing they once loved? In this case study, we explore how coaching helped a disillusioned executive reconnect with their values, rediscover meaning in their work, and transform disengagement into a renewed sense of purpose and direction. This isn’t about fixing someone, it’s about guiding them back to themselves.

Send us a text (https://www.buzzsprout.com/twilio/text_messages/1667158/open_sms) In a world obsessed with certainty, group identity, and the illusion of "the one right way," what happens when we choose to live in the question instead of clinging to the answer? In this episode, we challenge the seductive comfort of tribalism and explore how identifying too strongly with a single worldview can shrink our humanity. We dive into the dangerous allure of "my truth" vs. the truth, and why people who promise you the right way may be leading you the wrong way. Through the lens of self-compassion, responsibility, and the courage to deconstruct our own egos, we unpack how awareness without shame creates the space for real change. You’ll hear about the power of environment, the beauty of curiosity, and the transformative question: What if I had six months to live, what would I do differently? This is not an episode about how to live like someone else. It’s about discovering what’s real, meaningful, and creatively joyful for you. Visit us at: www.theselfhelpantidote.com